Many women talk about dating a “mature man”. What they’re really referring to is “emotional maturity.” An emotionally mature man is a man who won’t shut you out the minute things get stressful in his life.
Emotionally mature men are willing to show their feelings; and more importantly, they’re able to allow the woman in their life to “see” them even when they’re going through a difficult time. But how can you tell whether a man is emotionally mature and will stick it out with you through the inevitable ups and downs in every relationship? You need to look at how he handles three key areas in his life…
MATURITY AREA
1. FRIENDS.
What type of people does a man spend his time around? It has been said that you can know all you need to know about a person simply by looking at the people in his life. A man’s closest friends and peers are one of the very best windows into his mental and emotional world. Are a man’s friends people of integrity? Are they doing positive things with their lives and committed to living a good life? And are a man’s friends capable of being in mature and committed relationships? Does he have any married friends who have stable relationships where both partners are relatively happy and fulfilled? Men spend most of their time with people whose values they share.
2. FAMILY.
How does a man handle his relationships with his family members? Sure, lots of people have challenging family situations, but whether or not a guy’s parents are together is not what’s really telling about him. It’s more important whether or not he’s on stable emotional footing in the way he relates to his parents. Fighting intensely with parents, high and low emotional swings, or completely estranged situations without a clear reason can be signs of deeper emotional turmoil that’s unresolved and might mean that a man will have trouble being there and being present and stable with you emotionally.
3. WORK.
Is the man able to handle adversity, criticism or even intense politics at work and remain level headed, relatively calm, or even compassionate? Or is he spiteful, does he talk about problems instead of thinking about solutions and how to improve personal dynamics in his work life and relationships? Compassion and the ability to handle complex mental and emotional situations without coming unglued or doing negative or harmful things to other people is one of the best signs of emotional maturity – and sensitivity as well.
GETTING THE ANSWERS YOU NEED FROM HIM: THE BEST APPROACH
You can find out a great deal about a man’s emotional maturity level in conversation. All you have to do is start talking about your friends, family, and work and ask him about these three areas in his life one at a time. When he answers, dig a little deeper and try and get him talking about how he feels about these things. How does he feel about the people at work and his family?Get him to talk about his friends and tell you what he likes about them and what makes them tick. You’ll be surprised by how much a man will share about who he is and how he lives his life – if you simply ask. Not only will you learn whether he has the emotional maturity it takes to make a relationship work for the long haul, but you’ll create the kind of communication that brings two people closer together…and builds a solid foundation for the future.
NOTE: There are critical moments that define your relationship with a man, from the moment you meet him all the way through commitment – and they can either break you apart or bring you even closer together.
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